Like People for the Right Reasons

Top Photo: Target black blazer & pencil skirt; NY&Co top; JCPenny tights; Shoeland mary janes

Bottom Photo (after work): Jacket from Marshalls; Belt from Charlotte Russe; Another pair of Domaine Jeans

Hello...I added the pics first...trying something different. I hope everyone had a wonderful Monday, as I did.

And now for my #6 way of becoming a better me: Like People for the Right Reasons. I believe that liking someone isn't so simple; and sometimes people really think that they like someone when the reality is they don't. This is probably based on the situations and circumstances surrounding us. When I was younger (high school), I thought I was to like someone simply because they talked to me and allowed me to be in their 'popular' groups. And, I'm sure they only spoke to me because I dressed similar to the ways they dressed, or because I spoke properly. Obviously these are not concrete reasons to like someone. Of course, I grew up and I started seeing people for who they were...if I liked them, I liked them. If I didn't, I would remain cordial, but that was simply it.

Even now, in my work place, there are a group of women who hang out together in the work place as well as outside of the office. New people that come in (get hired) feel as though they should like these group of women simply because others do (reality...they probably don't) so it's like why not like them. When you're the new person on board, there's that pressure to find new friends (possibly desperation).

Or, sometimes people like what a person represents, such as in my high school years (what I wore, or how I spoke). It's just excelerated when you're an adult. It's called looking good on paper; such as, if you're a director, a doctor, a lawyer, or someone with an attractive last name like Rockefeller.

Then there's the I like you because your dog is cute, you drive a BMW, or you work at my favorite restaurant.

These are the wrong reasons to like someone. Maybe you're not needing a certain type of friendship right now. It takes time...let it happen. It's kind of like a relationship (husband/wife; boyfriend/girlfriend). You don't force it, you don't get into it because it's convenient, you're bored, or you feel pressured. Find your happiness first. That's exactly what I've done. I don't have many friends, but I believe the ones I have now are my TRUE friends. It's funny because we're all so different in many ways.

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