Even though I worked from home today, I feel a lot better now. Just looking forward to the weekend.
NY&Co blazer; Target T & belt; Marshall's jeans; shoes??
My daughter has decided to get back into the practice of drawing. She used to draw a lot when she was much younger, but the lack of focus came when she discovered cheerleading, student council, beta club, guitar lessons, MTV, modeling and the iPod.
I guess now she'll want to take classes... ...definitely won't be a surprise, she's always interested in something.
So I was feeling a little under the weather today. It's not like I had a cough, sneeze or even a runny nose...I just felt very light-headed (almost sick to my stomach). I actually had taken a 1/2 sick day because I just couldn't get through the day. But before I left , I had to snap a couple of pics of my co-worker, Enobong. She was so stylin today; not that she isn't stylish everyday, but today it must've been the brown and black combination I liked so much. Here she is-- Here are her shoes instead...she stated that she felt weird seeing her pic online...
Ok, so I just found out from a friend, that her teenage (14 year old) daughter is pregnant. My mouth flew open and I was speechless. My daughter is 15 years old...she's at the point where boys are starting to look cute to her now...but she considers herself a very goofy, geeky, uncoordinated type of girl who just isn't into boys just yet...whew!
What do you do when your young teenage child comes up to you and says they're pregnant or they got someone pregnant? I wouldn't even know what to say or think (outside of me knowing I'd probably catch a case)...I'd be sooo shocked to even hear something like that. Now, my daughter and I have talks, but there are some teens out there who will always mimic their friends and peers. I can only hope that the communication between me and my daughter will continue and that she will continue to think about other things than boys and sex.
As for my friend, she's very hurt and stumped. I couldn't even think of what advice to give her...which is unusual for me. I just believe this is something she and her daughter will have to get through together. So young...
I wasn't even thinking about boys or sex at 14 years old. I was too busy wrestling them...I was competitive; I always thought that whatever they could do...I could do better whether it was track & field, music, school work, it didn't matter. I always tried to outdo them; not try and have sex with them. I don't get it...
I always have conversations with my daughter...just...you know...mother/daughter talk. I would say something; I see her truly listening...she would talk and I'm all ears. But after our conversations, I started thinking about the things she said. What did I get from these conversations? I got that she, including some of her peers, are scared to love in the face of various diseases like AIDS. I got that they're scared to trust in such a violent society; and scared to dream inside a decreasing job market. Wow!
I think that my main concern as a parent is to give my child the best edge in this ever competitive world and to keep in touch with what's going on in hers.
Some ways that I try to keep in touch are:
Talking to her
Reading some of her magazines and books to learn the issues and concerns going on in her age group
I watch some of the TV shows she may watch...just to see what's she looking at
I listen to some of the music she listens to...(God help me)...to see what the lyrics state
I play video games with her...doing this opens up conversation
I talk to her teachers; I'm on the PTA; and I attend all parent conferences
I invite her friends over ....get to know her friend's parents
I feel that the communication needs to stay open.
As a parent, it is my duty to make sure that my daughter is properly informed about sex, drugs, puberty, sexually transmitted diseases, drinking, violence, peer pressure and other tough issues that they face today.
I always try to find ways for us to have quality time and to talk. As long as the world advances, slowing down does not seem plausible.
My lookbook for today: (I'm all wrinkles)
Target black cardi; Forever21 tank; H&M pencil skirt
Take a look at what she's wearing...yes, those are harem (MC Hammer) pants...whatever you want to call them. This is what she wore to school today. Around 8:30 am she text me saying that the kids in her school were just staring at her and making comments; many of them were ignorant comments at that. I text her back and basically said ignore them, and be you. Some kids just don't have enough confidence within themselves...I am raising my daughter to make sure she has confidence; to believe in herself; to be herself. I would think that many parents would do the same. I would think that it would start in the home... My daughter knows not to judge anyone; to talk about anyone whom she may think is "different". I wasn't raised to show prejudices against anyone and I'm bringing the same of what I was taught into my home now with my daughter. This is just ridiculous...and this isn't the first time she's had to go through this type of behavior from her peers. But I always tell her to remain true to yourself and brush off those who cannot do what you do....being confident.
Old Navy dress; smokey tights from Target; peep toe heels from ShoeLand
Do you ever just sit back and analyze the friendships you hold? I mean...we all want to be liked; cordial; friends. There are times when the hunger for friendship or wanting to be accepted becomes so great that a person can be blinded by a painful reality. So, really...the person hasn't truly befriended you; they're using you.
I've been in situations where I thought someone was my friend, and I wanted them to like me; however, that wasn't the case. The 'friend' just liked being around me because they felt I was popular in some sense or another.
Friends are suppose to be able to lean on one another; be supportive of each other. Think about it, have your friends been there for you through thick and thin? What about thru the good times and bad: breakups, loss, job promotions, wedding days, childbirth, even death of loved ones? I feel that if your relationship focuses on one person only, then it's possible that you are not in a friendship; you're probably more of a personal assistant or a sidekick more than a friend.
Something to think about; to test whether or not you're in a true friendship?
Are you the one who is always doing the favors in the friendship?
Does your friend only call you when they're in a crisis?
Does your friend even bother to ask how you're doing? or Does she/he enjoy talking about themselves only?
I don't know...think about it. I have. I've even narrowed my friendships down. I can be cordial with you, but the word 'friend' is a very meaningful word to me.
Its hard to see what I wore today. The lighting is way off in this photo. But I wore a long cardi & blouse from JCPenney; cropped pant from Old Navy; ankle boots from The Shoe Dept.