December 12, 2012

The Good, The Bad, The Ugly

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I have to admit...there was a time when I really felt like quitting blogging. I just simply needed a break. But then, after some thought, I decided against it...for now. And, here's why...

Good: There are a lot of creative personal style bloggers out there. Each has their own style/taste that they bring to the plate. I've even met some these wonderful women who have become 'real life' friends that inspire me. And, lots of these women challenge me creatively. I'm grateful for that.

Bad: Blogging can be time consuming. Between blogging (thinking of an outfit to wear, putting it together, photographing it, editing, posting it, promoting, linking up), social media (Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest, Instagram, Google+), and emailing, it totally sucks up your TIME. Because believe it or not, you're giving up something in order to blog. Simply put, blogging can be considered a sacrifice.

Ugly: Blogging so feels like a competition. I've said it before and I'll say it again. It's so easy to compare your blog to so and so's blog, feel left out or not included in some event, and wondering what your post lacked. But I've decided to focus more on my posts (just being me) for my readers. I can't worry about the next blogger's post. I blog because I feel like I have something to share with others and hopefully inspire them.

Continuing with Ugly: I've attended some events and met and observed some of the 'bigger' bloggers (by their follower numbers), and to my surprise, they weren't that social. Hell, some weren't really that nice. Some behaved in a way as if you should be on their coattails. Then I thought about myself. Questioned myself...am I unapproachable? Am I like them?

Even Uglier: My style. I'm going to keep it real. What you see me wearing on my posts, is me. I get emails from people asking why I blog because they feel as though my outfits aren't up to par. Well...MY blog is ME sharing with you MY personal style...my REAL personal style. I don't play dress up in some extravagant gown or dress; accessorizing it with some crown jewel. This is me people. I'm living on a budget. So if you thought my blog was to be like Karla's Closet, or FashionToast, shame on you.

Changes: I will now post when I feel like I'm able to, or when I'm inspired to do so. I more than likely will not bring back the 'link ups'. I'm continuing to design my blog to be simple, and easy to maneuver around. If I haven't blogged in awhile, I hope my readers decide to browse through other links on my blog  (Feature Friday, Outfit links) instead of un-following.

It's funny because I'm sure someone will judge me for writing this post. However, writing it feels so liberating.

Thank you for reading!

Corie

20 comments:

  1. Corie, you keep doing you, and I will continue to be here in the process. Your blog is one of the first ones that I ever found, and I've loved your style from day one. I tend to gravitate towards blogs/bloggers with sensible, everyday style like my own. I appreciate you giving us your real personal style. You, as well as bloggers like yourself continue to inspire me.

    Thank you for putting yourself out there to be an inspiration.

    PS, please dish on where you bought the jean dress. There goes that darn inspiration again! LOL =D

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  2. I'm just sorry this happened to you. I'm always surprised at the nerve of some people. And you said emails as in more than one person said it! People are so gross! SMH!

    Not surprised that the "bigger" bloggers are full of themselves and antisocial. They should all have seats!

    Like Ticka said "you keep doing you" I've been burned by the internet and I admire your courage to even posts pictures. I don't even do that. I don't have the temperament for critics so...

    Anywhoo, keep your head up lady! :)

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  3. I love your blog and everything about your style :) cute dress as well!

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  4. Ahh! You took the words out of my mouth. I've been thinking about this for so long. I took a break from blogging a few months ago, and you stated some of my reasons for doing so.

    I think people need to understand that we all have DIFFERENT styles. If you don't like someone's style, you don't have to follow neither should you make rude or hateful remarks. People like that, are only looking for attention and don't have jobs.

    Blogging is time consuming and honestly, I'm not much of a social network person. Yes, it can be fun when you get to meet new people, you'll eventually relate with.

    I've met awesome person through blogging and social networks. I also think that putting out good content is better than having a long list of so-called followers. Most of those followers sometimes follow, just to get a follow back. And, most don't comment!

    I get so many comments asking me to follow their blogs and it's getting very annoying.

    As a style blogger, blogging about YOUR style is all you can do. Just because those so-called bigger bloggers have many followers does NOT make their style better.

    I relate more with people with everyday style. I'm a college student and can only blog about my present life and style. I can't fake my style just to impress others and get more followers.

    I'm not surprised some big bloggers are not social. They might seem social on the internet, but are probably stuck up in real life.

    I'm so glad you published this post, ma!

    I love your style because I can relate with you, even though I'm a student. Your style is real and applicable. Your style is simple and can be easily recreated.

    I'm sorry for the long comment, but I was really touched by this post. Thanks for putting this out! :)

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  5. Go girl, I love your blog.

    Karmen

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  6. I feel you...side note: I love that denim dress!!

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  7. Thank you all for the wide responses. I'm sure someone will read this post or have read this post and thought that I was referring to them. What can I say? If you feel as though I'm referring to you, then maybe you need to make some changes from within. But I do appreciate all of your comments!

    Corie

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  8. "I've attended some events and met and observed some of the 'bigger' bloggers (by their follower numbers), and to my surprise, they weren't that social." YES!

    I read a book called "Quitter" by Jon Acuff and although it's a book about switching from your day job to your dream job, it has soooo many good nuggets about blogging and what to measure. It's a great read. It taught me not to measure my success/progress by numbers but by the hustle I put into it, which is so much more important and immeasurable. I used to have a fashion blog but I decided I'm no fashionista and I am so OK with being a "regular" girl who likes to play dress up every now and then. I love that your style is not "mainstream" and as long as you're comfy, do you! Don't get me wrong, I love looking at fancy outfits every now and then because they give me ideas, but I'm realistic and it seems that you are too. All the very best!

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  9. I couldnt agree more with everthing that you have said.. I someones say to myself that I hate that I dont blog like I thought that I would have the time too and how I dont have any followers.. But then I say to myself...Tiffany your a single mother and have other responsibilites other than blogging allll the time...You just have to blog when you can.. And its nothing towards those that can\do..I wish I had that kinda time. But that would soo take away from me being the parent that I need to be to my daughter.(cooking,house chores,etc)I just have other things to do and I enjoy simply getting inspiration from other bloggers. I too blog and dress for me..That's the only way to go\that I know how...So with that being said... Ur soo on point and all things with you will work out in your favor.

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  10. I'm sticking with you, Corie! I can totally relate to how you feel, and have to remind myself that I'm doing this for ME above all. :)

    xo,
    Terry

    http://terrys-two-cents.blogspot.com

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  11. Love you for this!! You are so real!! Keep doing you!! Love your blog!!!!

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  12. Corie, that's what I LOVVVVE most about your blog... Your honesty & REALNESS!!!!! Your personality comes across your blog. You're indeed the same person in person that is behind the PC! I appreciate your blog & you inspire me... I know I've told you that before but I just wanted you to know that there will always be some folks who don't like what we do & what we wear just keep doing you you are doing it well! Besides... It's your TASTE & whoever don't like it KICK ROCKS!!!!!!

    Also, you look great per usual!!!! And, if you decide to take a break I will be here wen you return!

    Xoxo
    Lynn

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  13. Melanie SmithDecember 13, 2012

    Keep being you. I love your blog, as you can tell by me pulling my maxi out of the summer box, once I saw you 'winterize'. Don't change

    Shoemisses

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  14. I follow your blog because I love your style, so the people that don't think it's up to par need to get a life. I mean what do they want you to dress like, everyone else?!?!? Then the YOUR blog wouldn't be true to who YOU are!! If everyone needs to look like or dress like other bloggers then what's the point of having other bloggers everyone can just go to one blog, right?!?!

    Wow and the some of the bloggers that act privileged and are non-sociable, it's like with celebrities that act the same way, you owe the people that follow you to be personable and humble. Your number of followers mean nothing, again like celebrities, just because they seem nice and wonderful on screen and far away, some will surprise you in person and will be the total opposite!!!

    As far as having time I can so relate to that, I want to blog more but I can't (there are things more important) and decided I won't sweat it, I do it when I can. I would rather have good, meaningful post once or twice a week than filler post everyday that mean nothing all. Substance over quantity is what I like!! :-)

    Corie keep doing YOU because as I stated I follow you because I enjoy your blog and your style, can't let the bad and ugly of blogging keep us away from doing something we enjoy!!



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  15. This is such a cute look! Love the dress and boots!

    ROni
    www.styleandpoise.bogspot.com

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  16. Corie,

    I really admire your honesty. I think a lot of us just want to connect with our readers and be authentically ourselves. I an believe people have the unmitigated gall to actually email you and ask why you blog. I am stunned. I love your style and it is original and great and you. I happen to love your blog.

    I have not been to a lot of blogging events, but I can tell you this for sure based on what bloggers have told me and what I have seen at the few events I have gone to.

    A lot of bloggers are shy in person. Some are genuinely nice, but just bashful face to face. Now on the flip side, I have come across some snobby bloggers too, but those have been few and far between.

    I actually find blogs with real content very refreshing. I love looking at cute outfits, but I like to get to know the person behind the blog. Ok, now on to the fashion. Cute Denim dress and bag:-)

    http://foodfashionandflow.blogspot.com/

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  17. Excuse my typos, I meant to say "I can't believe" in my second sentence.

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  18. I think about the same things sometimes. It is very time consuming. For me, the events and my faithful followers keep me going. I too have noticed some more popular bloggers have a certain attitude and I can't help but think maybe they're that way bc they think people only want to be nice to them to gain credit/or publicity. It still doesn't make rude behavior justifiable but, I've tired to thinking about it from both sides. Nonetheless, keep it up. I love your blog and your style!

    ~Whitney
    www.whitneynicjames.com

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  19. Wow, I needed to read this post. I feel the same way from time to time, but I love fashion so much I decided to continue blogging. I agree with you in all aspects.

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  20. P.S. Keep up the good work and keep blogging. Everyone has an audience.

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